Sex Seven Times a Month and Never Going to Bed Angry – Research Reveals the Secret to a Happy Relationship

Researchers surveyed 2,000 British couples who have been together for ten years or longer, and revealed the magic number is SEVEN, when it comes to getting intimate each month. If you’re unlucky in that department, then sites like is more than glad to be of service.

The survey also revealed a host of secrets to a happy, long-term relationship, according to those who have achieved it – including having no secrets (43 percent), a similar sense of humour (41 percent), never going to sleep on an argument (31 percent) and regular sex (32 percent.)

Over a quarter of the long-term couples polled, said a 50/50 division of household labour was essential to keeping things amicable.

Being able to laugh at each other, not trying to change each other and having an open phone policy all featured in the list.

Almost half of the British couples surveyed, claim they are very happy in their relationship, while a further 29 per cent said they were generally happy.

When it comes to knowing you’ve found the one, a romantic 19 per cent said they realised on their first date, but a more practical 46 per cent said after a few months.

And the survey revealed that one year and five months was the average time to move in together, to ensure a successful long-term relationship.

The survey conducted to launch drama Love & Death on ITVX, also showed the honeymoon period ends after approximately nine months of being together.

Overall 48 per cent of Brits believe they have found their soulmate, however despite this one in five admit to being unfaithful to their partner. Of those, as many as 58 per cent were found out by their partner.

Surprisingly a forgiving 85 percent of couples who have experienced infidelity have managed to work things out together – with 38 percent saying an affair actually made their relationship stronger.

17 per cent felt an affair was forgivable on the understanding that it never happens again, while one in ten think being unfaithful doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner.

A spokesperson for ITVX who commissioned the poll said ‘It’s fascinating to learn that almost half of all married couples in the UK are impacted by infidelity. Thankfully, the vast majority of British couples are able to resolve things amicably’.

A riveting, psychological drama from David E. Kelley and directed by Lesli Linka Glatter, Love & Death tells the unbelievable true story of Candy Montgomery (Elizabeth Olsen), a 1980s Texas housewife accused of murder. Love & Death is available to stream on ITVX from Thursday (7th September).


  1. Having fun together – 64 percent
  2. Admitting when you are wrong – 51 percent
  3. Always having each other’s backs – 50 percent
  4. Compromise – 50 percent
  5. Having no secrets – 43 percent
  6. Being able to laugh at each other – 42 percent
  7. Never stopping saying I love you – 42 percent
  8. Having the same sense of humour – 41 percent
  9. Never trying to change each other – 36 percent
  10. Regular sex – 32 percent
  11. Never going to sleep on an argument – 31 percent
  12. Being able to cry in front of each other – 27 percent
  13. A 50/50 division of household chores – 26 percent
  14. A similar sex drive – 24 percent
  15. Regular time apart – 22 percent
  16. Liking the same TV shows – 20 percent
  17. Cooking together – 17 percent
  18. Having separate bank accounts. – 16 percent
  19. Having the same bedtime – 15 percent
  20. Having an open phone policy – 10 percent
  21. Like the same takeaways – 10 percent
  22. Never going to the loo in front of each other – 7 percent
  23. Being aligned politically – 6 percent
  24. Forgiving an infidelity – 5 percent
  25. Separate beds – 5 percent
Tatiana Rehmova

A glass half-full kind of a girl and a believer that everything happens for a reason, Tatiana works in Media Relations and is the Content Producer at Enhancv. She loves writing, spotting inspiring stories, and building meaningful relationships.