From initial conversations people usually get a feel of their date and what they may like. So let’s say that a person is interested in books, then try book shopping. If they are a foodie, a great option is either a well-reviewed restaurant or a little trip to food market could be interesting. The most important thing to remember is to give each other a chance to connect and to get to know one another.
The most perfect first date will implement the interests of the individuals, within an environment where talking is ok and lastly a place where both parties feel comfortable and safe so that you both can feel relaxed and under no unnecessary pressure.
During the date, do something that lets you talk and get to know each other. At all costs avoid loud places and cinemas; although a classic typical date, watching a movie won’t help you to get to know each other. Opt for sitting and chatting to someone, or if that is too intimidating, doing an activity which you both enjoy which allows you to talk and do at the same time. This is a great way of avoiding the dreaded awkward silences.
It is always good to take the initiative and plan the date, however giving your partner various choices, which allow you both to personalize the experience allows for a more open interaction which helps when trying to get to know a completely brand new person. Lastly, have fun!
The Second Date
A second date is your chance to really get to know the other person. With the small foundation now in place, it is the perfect opportunity to build on the experience of the first date. Continue to avoid places where talking is difficult and select the location carefully. Now that nerves are little less daunting it is time to play on things you two have in common; you can really enjoy each other’s company. Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box.
This is also the perfect opportunity to build up on previous topics and learn more about each other. Do not interrogate them but definitely approach topics which matter to you to determine if you are compatible on the basic level. Don’t forget to also answer questions as honestly as possible. This is how feelings begin to develop and a real connection is formed.
Remain respectful and keep focusing on being on your best behaviour. Although it might seem right, getting too comfortable might spook the other person; save that for a long-term relationship. Also avoid assuming how your partner’s feeling. The best way of finding out their interest is to ask if they’d like to continue the date today further or if they’d be keen on hanging out again.
The Third Date
Oh the dreaded third date – the expectations set on it are always high so making sure that it goes well can bring back nerves. The biggest advice is simple – spend more time with each other, where both of you free up a significant portion of the day to be together. If you’ve kissed already and share a great chemistry, it’s completely acceptable to kiss each other when you first meet. You’re developing a relationship and affection is a huge part of it. It helps to establish your boundaries but do not be afraid to be warm with each other either. Nothing builds the bond as much as a memorable kiss.
The third date is also a great time to tease each other. You may have to put on your best, clean side during the first couple of dates but now that both of you are almost a couple, you can tease your date about any funny incidents or even poke fun of them when they do something silly. The third date isn’t all about romance, it’s about revealing your fun and happy sides to each other.
Don’t be afraid to get more personal on this date either. Don’t avoid your questions or doubts on a third date. Talk about anything you want, as long as it isn’t answered by an awkward pause. You can even allow yourself to be more sexy and flirty.
Most importantly this date is for creating memories. Take pictures together or buy something for each other when you’re out shopping. Once you reveal more about yourself you both will feel more connected and have a strong base to build your relationship further.
Of course – both have and treat one another with respect – and fingers crossed for a fourth date!
Written by: Claire Certain, Dating Expert at app, Happn
Happn is the dating app that helps individuals discover people they have crossed paths with. Using hyper-localised and real-time data means that every time an individual looking for love crosses paths with other members, their profile will appear on his or her timeline!