Relationship Expert Reveals Dating App Ins and Outs

‘Ins and outs’ have taken social media by storm, with #insandouts2024 gaining almost 50 million views on TikTok. They’re a great way to set yourself some goals without the pressure of them being ‘resolutions’, and aren’t limited to being a yearly thing. 

But with #datingsucks being equally as popular at the moment (hello, 287 million views!), what should some ins and outs be for our dating lives? Sexual wellness brand has spoken to Dating and Relationship expert, Callisto Adams, to get some insight on how we can improve our dating app experiences to avoid dating app fatigue and get the most out of the apps. 


  1. Managing the time you’re spending on dating apps

“Setting clear limits on exactly how long you intend to swipe on dating apps and sites like can be a great way to manage dating app fatigue. It can be easy to get lost in a surge of swiping, so it’s important to take a step back and be mindful of the time you’re spending online.”

  1. Limiting the number of people you speak to at once

“When speaking to multiple matches at once, it can be easy to lose track of your conversations. By limiting the number of conversations you’re having at once, you’re able to form deeper connections.”

  1. Managing your expectations

“Not everyone you match with online will be right for you, and that’s ok! Not expecting too much from a potential online love prospect can help you avoid disappointment later on down the road.”

  1. Being patient

“It can be easy to become wrapped up in the idea that you must be in love or have found a partner by a certain age. It’s important to remain patient, but also put yourself out there and take it easy while you do.”


  1. Swiping right on someone you’d never talk to

“When continuously swiping on dating apps, it can be easy to zone out and lose touch with what you’re actually looking for in a partner. This can leave you with numerous matches, but none you actually have a genuine interest in. Make sure to stay in tune with what you truly desire from a potential match.”

  1. Putting pressure on yourself

“With all things considered, it’s essential to not put too much pressure on yourself when online dating. If you’re not enjoying your experience, or feel as though it’s becoming too overwhelming, have a break and reconnect with yourself!”

  1. Not doing what you love

“Online dating can be tricky to navigate, but for those who dream of meeting their significant other offline, it’s important to not feel as though you have to jump on the app bandwagon. By doing more of the things you love (outside your home), you’re more likely to meet someone you have things in common with.”

Brenda Kimble

Brenda Kimble is an entrepreneur and mother of 2 daughters and a son, plus their beagle named Duke! She loves blogging, crafting, and spending time with her family.