5 Ways to Gain Control in Your Relationship

Not all relationships are perfect. Many involve a power balance of sort and that’s perfectly healthy. We might feel in control over some areas of our relationship but limited in others. So, it’s difficult not to help but wonder, how can we feel empowered in a relationship?

Based in Harley Street and High Street Kensington, Fiona Lamb specialises in helping her clients navigate anxiety, emotional eating, and addictions by using a variety of bespoke hypnotherapeutic treatments.

With that in mind, today she’s bringing us five ways to gain control in your relationship.

1. Know that your relationship does not define you as a person

You might be a two, or even more, but no matter how many are in your relationship, you’re still an individual. You are authentic. In a relationship, it’s integral that you work on yourself to be the best person for your partner and you.

2. Have separate but balanced areas of your life

It’s not just the age‑old work/life balance to think about. If you find yourself worn down with how much energy you’re expending in your relationship, take a step back and consider what areas you may be neglecting. Inversely, you may be spending too little in your relationship; balance is key.

3. Take time out to establish new interests and hobbies

Elaborating on the last point is enhancing and expanding your horizons by taking on new hobbies. You can feel empowered by broadening what you do outside of your relationship, or, even better, pick‑up hobbies you and your partner can explore together. Work, hobbies, family, friends, and your relationship should all be balanced.

4. Learn how to communicate calmly

When things upset us, the ability to communicate how we feel in a neutral, emphatic way goes far in feeling in control. While it’s easy to get all the words out when we feel emotional, people don’t always respond best to such fluvial overflow of emotions. Take time to deal with emotions and communicate.

5. And remember, no‑one can love us if we don’t love ourselves!

If a power imbalance is what you’re feeling in a relationship, it might be time to be upfront with yourself and think, “Am I ready for a relationship?” It’s when you are the best version of you and love yourself completely that others will come to love you too.

Diana Simpson

Diana is a passionate journalist and a curious soul who is on the quest of finding what she loves the most; coffee, dogs, books or traveling? Born and bred in London, writing is her healing power.