An issue that many of us have; whether it’s your very first date or your 100th, everyone gets nervous. It’s important to remember that this is a completely natural feeling! Our emotions inevitably fly all over the place when we are seeing someone we really like as we’re not sure whether to feel excited or scared, frantically wishing that we’d stayed at home.
The truth is, nine times out of ten our date is also nervous, they just don’t show it. So, how can you conquer your first date nerves to feel more relaxed on the big day? Charlie Spokes, founder of dating platform ‘My Friend Charlie’, shares her top 6 tips with YCB for battling your nerves.
1. Plan a date that you’re comfortable with.
If you’re the person who’s asked someone on a date, then pick a venue or event that you’re already comfortable with. Go to an area you know well and visit often, making sure nothing feels new to you. Knowing you’re in a ‘natural’ environment can really help to calm your nerves. Plus, it’ll help with planning your journey there, saving the stress of any potential travel issues.
2. Make a date playlist.
Music is one of the most effective ways to de-stress; narrow down your favourite genre of music, whether it’s fast paced or an acoustic, chilled out album and spend some time relaxing. Music can put you in another world and when preparing for a first date, it’s a crucial resource to have.
3. Dress to impress, yourself!
Dressing to impress is obviously a big deal for many – we want to show our personality, highlighting our fashion sense and originality. However, it’s important to put this pressure aside, instead deciding to put yourself first. Wear something you’re comfortable in, look great in and most importantly, something that makes you feel unquestionably confident. This is a situation where you can truly shine, so feel free to express yourself however you like!
4. Experience group dates.
If you’re planning on asking someone out in the future, think about going on group dates with friends. This is a great opportunity to feel more at ease, knowing you’re with others who can help you through the night. It can really help to build up your confidence, as you become used to talking with new people for the first time! You’re able to learn what you do best and what you can improve on before your first one-on-one date.
5. Keep the date to yourself.
Understandably, the first thing you’ll probably want to do when you land a date is run and tell your bffs all about it. Celebration time, right? No! If you want to keep your nerves to a minimum, keep the date to a minimum. The more people you tell, the more questions you’ll be asked and soon enough, this build up will create even more nerves. Keep it between you and your date and if all goes well, then tell your friends without any apprehension!
6. Don’t be afraid to make fun of yourself!
Going on a first date can be a wonderful feeling but don’t take it too seriously. Make fun of yourself, show your personality and vibrancy! This is your time to demonstrate who you really are, helping your date to understand you better. Throw some jokes around, have a laugh together and most importantly, try to enjoy the date even if it’s not what you expected.