We are constantly told that being in a relationship is something that we should all aspire to achieve. While it’s true that when you are in a loving, safe and secure relationship, it can be hard to imagine anything better. However, for some people, relationships are toxic and can end up being harmful and dangerous.
Most of Top Life Coach Carole Ann Rice’s work focuses on making people the best versions of themselves. Here, she shares with us the 5 signs that you may be in a toxic relationship.
1. You always aim to please
While you should aim to make your partner happy, it shouldn’t take over your relationship. If you’re spending all of your time trying to be perfect and being afraid of making mistakes, it could be a sign that the relationship is toxic.
2. You are constantly criticised
Bickering and arguing are part of any relationship, but constant put downs and criticism should not be accepted. Your partner is there to elevate you and make you the best person you can be, not the opposite. If you are constantly being criticised and not complimented, it may be time for you to leave.
3. You are never alone
With social media and instant messaging, it is now easier than ever to know where your partner is. While this can offer peace of mind, it can also lead to control and manipulation. If your partner is constantly checking where you are, how long you will be and doubting everything that you say, it could be a sign that they are becoming controlling.
4. Your needs are not being met
Relationships work both ways, so it’s important that both of you feel valued and listened to. If your partner is not listening to your concerns, talking over you, or not valuing your desires and needs, it’s time for you to call out your partner on your issues with the relationship.
5. Coercive control
Part of being in a secure relationship is being able to feel free and enjoy yourself. However, if you are in a toxic relationship, this liberty may have been taken away from you. A red flag to look out for is whether your partner allows you to handle your own money and allow you to have financial security. If they handle the cash and only give it to you when you ask, warning signs should begin to flash!