How to Put the Passion Back in the Bedroom

There’s no doubt that the bedroom is the most intimate room in the house and where we are at our most vulnerable. It’s where we dress and undress, abandon ourselves to sleep every night – and, of course, it’s usually where we wear our sexy new lingerie, make love, and spend our most intimate moments with our partner.

This Valentine’s Day, We-Vibe® is turning up the heat and spicing things up in the bedroom. The world’s most popular couple’s massager has teamed up with International Design superstar and Tastemaker, Laurence Llewelyn-Bowen to encourage couples, and show them how, to transform their bedroom and take the space from drab to desirable!

We-Vibe want to encourage couples, and those on the hunt for Mr or Mrs Right, to create a more romantic intimate space during the month of love.

Laurence Llewelyn-Bowen offers his top tips to create the perfect sensual space and transform your bedchamber:

Play with texture

You know how it is when you feel turned on, all your nerve endings are tingling and jangling and textures become magnified in the heat of the moment. So soft velvet cushions, silky faux fur throws, shiny, slippery leather furniture all make for an increased sense of sensuality.

Set the mood

Candles are an obviously romantic symbol, but in the wrong hands candles can make your room look like a child’s birthday party, or worse – an altar. My tip is to make groupings of candles, either in candlesticks, or pillar candles directly on surfaces so that you get ravishing pools of amber light, rather than an odd flickering flame here and there.

Forget Fifty Shades of Grey

Colour plays a big role in how we feel about where we are. Forget Fifty Shades of Grey, it’s actually reds, purples and oranges that set our hearts pumping, and really create exactly the rich kind of mood. Rich, warm, dark-toned colours have the effect of making rooms look smaller, which psychologically makes us feel safer; and when we’re safe and not distracted, we’re more likely to feel relaxed, sexier and want to push our own emotional boundaries.


Back in the day, a warm-hued silk scarf placed over a lampshade was a universally recognised symbol of sexy anticipation. My feeling is if isn’t broke, don’t fix it. Making the light levels in your room more smoochy, more sultry, more sexy is a great way of establishing the mood, and YES, jewel coloured chiffon over a lampshade (make sure it’s never directly on a bulb) will make a space where the hoochie-coochie can flourish!

Break the routine

The bedroom is often where we are our most true and authentic selves; where we remove the masks and artifice we use every day to get through our lives. But even in the bedroom, where we are free to be at our most fundamental and honest, things can get routine and boring. How are we supposed to feel inspired in our love-making when the surroundings never change? Why not introduce something new to spice up your love making routine. Whether that be opening the conversation to introducing sex toys in to the bedroom, trying new lingerie, or experimenting between the sheets, Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to make some changes that will make the bedroom a more exciting venue for love and romance and your partner will surely appreciate the effort you’ve gone to.

Simple touches = big difference

You don’t need to spend a lot of money. Think about investing in some crisp new bed-linen, some pretty cushions, or a cuddly throw in warm colours. Making a little effort with our physical surroundings matters, because we humans are emotive creatures, and we respond to our environment. When we’re in a place that stimulates our senses, we can’t help but respond in a positive way—and when we know that our loved one has gone to so much trouble, we can’t fail to be touched.

Charlotte Giver

Charlotte is the founder and editor-in-chief at Your Coffee Break magazine. With a background in PR working in Los Angeles and Barcelona, Charlotte has been running Your Coffee Break from the YCB HQ in London’s Covent Garden for the past 8 years. She is a mother, an avid reader, runner and puts a little too much time into her morning brew.

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